Many men come into my life and they ask me,

 “Colleen, why can’t more women be like you?”

“You are so refreshing.” 

Many of my girlfriends just go, “Colleen is magic, defiantly one of a kind.”

And sometimes women don’t like me because men seem to always endlessly flock to me.

I’m not the woman though men buy nice things for, I’m the woman that men go on EXPERIENCES with, which trust me is far more valuable than any tangible thing a man could buy me.

Every man I’ve dated has talked about a future together whether it be children, marriage, getting a home together, traveling, our impact on this world, EVERY SINGLE MAN.

It never fails.

And people wonder how I do it and still am single? 

How did a man I randomly met at a hotel bar charter a private jet to Steve Aoki in Miami a week after meeting me, and we never even kissed?

How has a private pilot met me and randomly takes me on his private small plane around New Zealand? 

How did a famous soccer player invite me on his yacht from my small boat tour around an island?

How have men taken me to restaurants that are easy $500-$2,000 dinners, yet it actually was never about the price tag, as it was of being present with the conversation we were having?

How have men taken me on a few thousand-dollar weekend or overnight trips and we’ve never even had sex?

How have men known I’m dating other men, yet they are only dating me?

How have multiple men asked me to look at houses with them, even though I had no intention of living with them, yet in their mind, they already planned a future?

How have men brought me into fancy palaces, in Europe, gave me VIP access to museums that I shouldn’t have been allowed in? 

How have men bought me 80 roses and filled a whole house with them just to remind me how special I am, with again not even kissing?

How have men been there for me when I was going through cancer and sexually made me feel beautiful?

How have men known I’m going through an eating disorder make sure that I eat, even if it means their food too?

How have men never in their life let me pay for something over years of dating even though I offer, and we’ve never slept together?

How do men consistently not let me get up out of bed to make them breakfast or coffee, or even grab them water if I was closer to the fridge than them?

How have men written me the most beautiful poetry?

Literally cried in front of me of pure, raw emotion?

How have men that broke my heart always stayed until I was healed or returned to me with an apology once it sunk in what they did?

My list could go on and on for all the amazing things and experiences men have done for me.

And I believe this has happened because I’ve always been true to me. 

The moments of heartbreak happened when I shrunk, when I didn’t tell the man what I needed out of fear of rejection, when I pretended that the truth of me was too much for them to receive.

Yet the reality is quite the opposite has happened when I’ve been fully myself. 

So why do women lie then?

Why do men time and time come to me saying?

“Where do I find love, Colleen? Where do I find a woman like you?”

Well, women lie for two reasons:

One there is an unawakened,  unconscious woman who is afraid of herself, afraid of reality, and she has been taught from a young age she must lie and manipulate in order to have control over her life. She must lie so that no one can get too close to see the real her, so she is always in control, and she doesn’t have to feel the pain of being let down, and in duality, she never gets to experience the bliss of true love.

Now men – your role as a society protector, you feel this calling to protect these women. You energetically feel the wounded little girl in her where you want to come and save the woman, help her see how beautiful this life could be with you. So, you overcompensate, you let the little lies slide, you let her manipulate you on silly things, you let her say horrific sexual things to you, you slowly let her erode your space as a man.

Because you think that is what you must do in order for her to feel safe and finally become this GRAND amazing woman you see the potential of.

Yet this is flawed, and this woman is lying to you.

Because she’s not this grand woman you see could bloom into a flower.

She is wounded and from the second she met you she was lying to you, so you could begin to control you.

She is unconsciously doing this as a protective mechanism, so she felt like she had a handle on her internal emotional chaotic mess of a life.

Because on the inside she has 45304930580 voices talking inside her own head where deep down she has no idea what is going on in her reality, she’s just trying to get by without being noticed.

She’s afraid you’ll find out she is a fraud.

What if people find out the truth of who she is?

That would be far too scary because she is ashamed of her past.

She is ashamed of who she truly is because she has been made fun of for being that person.

 So instead of facing herself and this internal rejection of herself, inner self-hate dialogue, and the emotional mess she’s in, she lies to control you because it what makes her feel like she has a grip upon reality.
And as men, you must leave.

There is nothing you can do to protect her from herself.
There is nothing you can do to save her from herself.

It is your duty to simply do no contact, block, and move on.

She will be okay.
She will not die.
It is not your fault if she harms herself.
You are not responsible for her.

Now the second type of woman the Awakened Woman.

Why does she lie?

 Why did I lie to a man about having an abortion sharing it was a miscarriage?

Well for once I gave him three opportunities mind, body, and Soul for me to share.

I called him in Florida, looking over the balcony and he hung up on me after I kept saying hello.

He asked how my day was, “I said today was intense.”

For those of you who know me know I never have really intense days, I am just intense and a lot of energy. He didn’t seem to care or be bothered to ask why.

Third I was standing outside the clinic telepathically telling him to call me if I was meant to have this child, and when telepathically I told him to call me before he did many times.

So, he called me two days later saying, “I’ve been reflecting if I want you in my life or not, and I have decided I do.”

I listened to him talk for 60 minutes or so and then I shared I had a miscarriage.

Why did I lie?

One Reason: I didn’t feel safe

He didn’t provide safety for me to know that no matter what I could be myself, and that being me would be okay.

At so many layers the Awakened Women do what men do, which is try and fix someone’s pain, prove their worth for a man to hopefully desire to be around them, this woman just wants these unawakened men to see the Divinity of the Light.

Yet as Awakened Woman, we cannot do this.

The moment the Awakened Woman feels invalided, unsafe, or unseen we begin to shut down and lie.

So, men, how do you stop this from happening?

Because you obviously desire an awakened woman, you are ready to give to her, be present with her, allow her to be seen in all her states of embodiment and expression?

1.     Get into a men’s group – these alone change men to understand polarity, what women desire, moving through anger and pain, and beginning as a man to trust you’ve got this, you can lead her.

2.     Ask women better questions

a.     Ask her how she views life

b.     Ask her about her girlfriends

c.     Ask her WHY she loves her work

d.     Ask her the dreams she has

e.     Ask her about her visions of perceiving the world

f.      Focus on watching what lights her up and then ask questions to let her express that passion so you can observe it, and see this divine creative force and wisdom flow through her body like a waterfall

3.     Really work on becoming Present

a.     There is nothing more attractive than the way a man looks at a woman when she isn’t even looking, yet she can feel it from across the room, from downstairs to upstairs, from you coming home from work when your 10 minutes away

b.     Your presence it what will melt her into you and forget the next word in her sentence

4.     Be okay with demanding her to become submissive to you and allowing her to demand you to become submissive to her

a.     We are moving into a world where gender equality won’t be a thing. What will matter is the devotion she has to her mission, and the integrity you have to be fully present with what is coming through people.  

These are some practical steps to guide the Awakened Woman, to be honest, fully transparent, expressive, and melt on her knees for you. Because your duty your affirmation as a man to attract this type of woman are:

I offer safety in my presence.
I fully support her to be her.
I am a safe space for ALL of her when I take care of my personal needs first.
Her expression is safe here.
I can lead her into deeper safety.
I am a Divine Masculine Presence.

These affirmations and practical action steps I shared to take will empower you to let go of the unawakened women or see their red flags to let go sooner.

And these will allow you to shift your state and frequency to attract women who are honest, who desire to be honest, and will be honest because you provide safety, stability, and structure for them to be expressed in their flow of life.

In turn, you will start to begin to turn your life into a love affair because you naturally are committed to showing up as the masculine to provide structure for the feminine to flow.

This is actually how men desire to experience a love affair, alluring, exotic, spontaneous, yet grounded in the reality of Sacredness, Divinity, where a woman’s orgasms are never-ending,  and she’s asking for more of it all the time, every second, because through your presence, she feels seen, heard, safe, and desiring for her fullest expression to come through so she can be witnessed by YOU and YOU ALONE, as that is her deepest craving.

Let me know what comes up.
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Turn your life into the greatest love affair
Colleen

The best book to start depending on your journey and practice to this is my book Live Your Truth :)